Ehh, I think you're reading too much into Voices of War <G>
The Captain of the ship is a man, based on his log entry -- "I wave goodbye to my quarters and envision beaches, blondes, brunettes and banana daiquiris." It's further implied (but not stated) that he's Blair, given his recollections of K'Tithrak Mang, Shotglass and Tolwyn <G> But I suppose anyone who served on Concordia would remember all of that... it's also possbile that his name is Jacorski, mentioned later on in VoW.
Clearly, Graham (who I guess is the son you mention) isn't Angel and Blair's son, since he's at *home* with his mother while is dad is on Lexington <G> ("You’re a brave kid to stay behind and take care of your Mom.") I would also suppose that the dad *isn't* the commander of the Lexington, since he's a pilot, and single <G> (Voices of War, while having ongoing stories, is also a lot of... voices of war <G>).
I would agree that Victory Streak implies that Angel's team was onboard the Lexington -- but not that they were necessarily in charge of the ship.