CGI conversations similar to Standoff are perfectly fine IMO. We're not trying to produce Mass Effect 4 for the Xbox 720 here, after all. As for the player character, I have no problem with her as a woman as long as she's not overly played-up as a sex object (e.g. Lara Croft's Boobs of Steel). The reluctance towards being a leader is more of a problem, I think.